Nearly all married the prettiest woman they figured they could reasonably secure and were surprised when the physical attraction didn’t sustain the relationship. It turned out to be a poor indicator of what kind of mates these women would be, value alignment, common interests, even sexual compatibility.
Humor is sexy, grace is sexy. Being good, giving and game is sexy. Touch is sexy. Being considered and appreciated is sexy. How someone walks is sexy. Ideas are sexy. What you do with your life is infinitely more attractive than the wrapping. I prefer to live in the erotic space of the mind. Beauty is the shallow end of the pool, the whole person is the exploration of an ocean.