💭 Why You Should Talk to Yourself in the Third Person


There is a growing body of research showing that we can increase our awareness of negative emotions by consciously narrating how we’re feeling.

One way is to refer to myself as "the I". For example, the other day I got upset that my cat knocked a glass off the kitchen counter and anger started to boil. My cognitive response became "The I is feeling frustrated that my cat knocked over the glass because the I is taking it personally, but my cat is only trying to communicate because the I previously ignored his attempts to ask for food.”

Having this “distanced self-talk” can foster psychological distance that leads to better emotional regulation, self-control, and even wisdom.   


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